This week we are focusing on kindness. The first thing I did was look up the term so I have a complete understanding of what kindness included. Here is the definition:
The quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.
Synonyms: warmheartedness, affection, warmth, gentleness, concern, care consideration, helpfulness, thoughtfulness, selflessness, compassion, sympathy, bigheartedness, friendliness, hospitality, generosity, and charitableness.
I have always wanted one of the things people say about me is “she is a kind, sweet person,” So I have tried to be kind my whole life and I hope I am coming across that way. As I was focusing on seeing and doing acts of kindness this week, I realized several things. From the above definition and synonyms, I feel like I am working on being kind everyday. I feel like I can get along with anyone and kindness is at the core of that ability. That lead me to the Law of giving. Before this week, we have been reading and practicing the Law of giving. If we have been true to the task and giving 100 % we were already focusing on kindness. The very first sentence in the Law of Giving speaks to this the most directly, but the whole thing is really about kindness.
1. Wherever I go I bring a gift. I may bring a compliment, a prayer, a trinket, a flower…but I promise to give something to every person I encounter.
It is a very simple way to show kindness. When we smile at someone when we walk by, when we compliment someone, give a tip or thank you for quality service, we are being kind. When we do these things we are fulfilling the third part of the Law of Giving.
3. I promise to give hope for joy, affluence, kindness, and love consciously with every encounter, regardless of the brevity.
In reading the kindness posts in the alliances, I see a lot of comments on how surprised people were by the acts of kindness. It is sort of sad that people are so shocked to be treated so nicely, and also feels great to know I am apart of a movement to help make the world brighter. When we do act of kindness we do give people hope.
Part of what we are to do this week while focusing on kindness, it to do 2 acts of kindness without getting caught. This can be hard to do. Although challenging, if you are successful, it can be the most fulfilling and fun part. In some cases, you may get to see the reaction, and in others you just leave feeling good you did a nice thing.
Another thing that couples can do along these lines, is to leave your significant other a SHMILY. What is a SHMILY? It is an acronym for See How Much I Love You. I first heard about this while reading Night Light: A Devotional for Couples. The story is about a couple who, throughout their marriage, left little messages and gifts for each other. Things like writing SHMILY on the mirror so the steam from the shower would make it show up, leaving a SHMILY note in a lunch box or on the pillow. It can even be services or gifts (trinkets) given. This couple did this activity until they were separated by death. Even the wreath of flowers on the casket had SHMILY on the ribbon. My husband and I have been know to leave SHMILY for each other on occasion, and this weeks focus on kindness has me wanting to come up with some new ones to show him some kindness as well. It feels good whether you are on the receiving or giving end.
What I really love about this weeks focusing on kindness and masterminding about it, is the compounding effect. Many are commenting that others are joining in the movement, even those not in the MKMMA, and spreading kindness all over. It is wonderful to see this happening. There is too many negative things we are bombarded with everyday, and to see this spread and create more positive experiences, brings joy to my heart.
I do not plan to stop spreading kindness at the end of this week when we are to switch our focus. I plan on making doing kind acts a lifestyle and will continue to do it. Who doesn’t need more kindness in their life?