MKE- Get Out of the Box
A couple weeks ago, I gave my hairstylist, Katie, the creative license to do something bold and dramatic with my hair. I have had my-hair dyed before, even going as far as auburn with hot pink streaks. Yet that didn't seem dramatic enough. The real question is why did I want bold and dramatic? What led me to saying,”do what ever,” when I like to be in control? Why was I giving up control?These were questions I was asking myself after Katie had Finished. It was days later that I came up with 4 reasons why I went with bold and dramatic.
1. I was tired of feeling like other people thought I was boring. I guess being a stay at home mom who home schools, organic farms, and is writing a gluten free cookbook seemed a little too -normal. I wanted to be different, above average.
2. I wanted something different and fun. I saw other people do dramatic and bold thing. I wanted others to see my adventurous, fun side too.
3. I needed a lesson on getting out of my comfort zone. Get out of the box. By getting my hair dyed, there was no going back until my hair grows out or I dye it again. I essentially forced myself to get out of my comfort zone. At the live retreat, Davene said we need to learn to embrace uncertainty. This will definitely put me in a lot of situations with uncertainty for me. This will be good for me. Was it uncomfortable? Absolutely,everything new has a level of discomfort. Ironically, it was not as bad as I had expected. In fact, most people responded positively. This was the exact opposite of what I thought (feared) would happen. I expected that as an adult with purple and blue mermaid hair I would get ridiculed like a teenage punk rocker. I haven't experienced any of that yet.
4. I needed another lesson as well. Learning to not care what others think. I am a people pleaser and have cared what people think for my whole life. In fact, conflict or someone being mad at me is the worst in my book. The MKE has taught me the Gal in the Glass is all that matters, but knowing and doing are not the same thing. One must practice. So my subconscious gave me the idea- dye hair bold and dramatic- and now I get to practice only caring what the Gal in the Glass thinks. I love the artistry of the mermaid hair. It is pretty and I love the colors.
So what lessons have I learned from this experience? I can get out of my comfort zone and it isn't as bad as I imagined. Doing something I want is o.k. and that we should never try to predict what others will say or do. We are all on a journey and are in different places along the path. Without all that knowledge we cannot expect to predict acculturate, so we shouldn't assume to know.
Now it's your turn. Are you willing to take a chance and step out of your comfort zone. Do something you've always wanted but held back because of fears. It doesn't have to be big and dramatic. It can be small like lying down on the floor of a busy mall. The more often we go outside our comfort zone, the less that things scare us, and soon it will be a challenge to find something that makes you uncomfortable. Here is a resource for getting started on doing things outset your comfort zone. It is called The Flinch. Grow yourself and do it now.